This was a book that I was instantly drawn to but was honestly in my pile of “recipes to try, books to read, restaurants to visit and workout moves to do” for months. I’m sure my mother will smile at the visual of me surrounded by a ridiculous amount of papers, but they are all neatly contained in folders Mom. ;) (I frequently give her a hard time about her papers and lists that cover every flat surface in their house – all in love!) And she is clearly where I got my list-writing skills from!

I am so sorry that I waited so long to read this book. Especially after my visit to Haiti, I knew this book would be one that really made me think about the ever-touchy subject of body image. The premise is that different cultures have widely variable body type “ideals.” Countries and cultures have almost opposite body ideals, but in most cultures, there are always ideals that women strive to reach. Some are becoming closer and closer to the Western standards we see, but others are holding onto their own ideals.

Women in Jamaica for example would scoff at some of the size 2 Hollywood models that we admire. They want curves and they want big curves. But what struck me the most was this quote: “God gave me this body as it is; I can’t change it and even if I did it would go right back,” and similarly “We are born with a certain something that we must do our best with. I myself believe this. You can tone up your muscles a bit and lose or gain a bit of weight here and there, but your basic shape will always return to its natural shape.” These words of wisdom remind me of how many times I’ve purchased “curvy fit” pants to only find out time and time again that I’m not curvy. “Curvy” has always appealed to me in some way – it seems womanly, it seems real and there is nothing better than a curvy girl with some self-confidence. But I wasn’t born with a curvy body and no matter what I do, (short of plastic surgery) my body will always hold onto that boyish shape.

But what is interesting is that while we obsess over the roll in our stomach, they’re consumed with the pressure to have big hips, thighs, “bumpas” and breasts, all fitting into the “perfect ratio” – and taking the very same “extreme” approach to gaining weight that we take to lose weight. Since most women are built with bigger bottoms, I think that their ideal may seem a little more realistic, but that certainly could be argued and certainly depends on the body you are given.

Take Jennifer Hudson, the newest Weight Watchers spokes woman. When I first saw the commercial, my thoughts were that she looked good, curvy and downright beautiful.  Not that she needed to cut calories and hit the gym more often. I just wish that we could teach our young girls that as long as they are eating well and moving often, a larger body shape is nothing to be ashamed of. But our culture, among others is one that prizes tall and lean. I wonder if this will ever shift?

While the same “chubby” body type is also appreciated in Afghanistan, there is no emphasis on the “ratio” nor on body shape as much as in other cultures. “Beauty is the whole person,” not so much a feature or specific part of the body. It was very difficult for Afghani women to describe the “perfect body,” something I doubt would ever happen here.

The trends seem to be going in a different direction here in the US now, you don’t want to be overweight, but skinny fat isn’t healthy either. The women of today want to show their strength and determination through their toned biceps. We also want to see what our bodies can do and how far we can push them – the number of women participating in triathlons and marathons is on the rise. How much attention has Michelle Obama gotten for those arms of hers?

 

I would highly recommend this book to every woman – it is so interesting to read about the struggles that women go through in other countries to reach that perfect body – something most of us are all too familiar with. I know that I myself have been trying to look at my body differently – not as a size, not as a flat tummy or not having a flat tummy, but taking care of myself and considering optimal health the ideal. Eating whole, nutritious foods, moving frequently and fitting in yoga so that I can breathe in this hectic world. Because really, what are we without good health and more importantly, what are we without the love, joy and passion that can be sucked out of us on the quest to “perfection?”

26 Comments (Reply )

  1. Mo@MommyRD
    Apr 29, 2010 @ 10:19 am

    WELL SAID!!

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  2. Mo@MommyRD
    Apr 29, 2010 @ 10:19 am

    WELL SAID!!

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  3. Dan
    Apr 29, 2010 @ 12:53 pm

    Start a revolution Emily!

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  4. Dan
    Apr 29, 2010 @ 12:53 pm

    Start a revolution Emily!

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  5. Tracey
    Apr 29, 2010 @ 2:15 pm

    I really need to check out this book. The problem is I have so many books to read that it’s getting overwhelming:)

    This book seems like it would have a good message so I might just move it up above all the other books to read. Thanks for letting me know about it!

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  6. Tracey
    Apr 29, 2010 @ 2:15 pm

    I really need to check out this book. The problem is I have so many books to read that it’s getting overwhelming:)

    This book seems like it would have a good message so I might just move it up above all the other books to read. Thanks for letting me know about it!

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  7. Tut
    Apr 29, 2010 @ 2:42 pm

    Thank you! Very well said. Your statements: “Eating whole, nutritious foods, moving frequently and fitting in yoga so that I can breathe in this hectic world. Because really, what are we without good health and more importantly, what are we without the love, joy and passion that can be sucked out of us on the quest to “perfection?”
    focus on the what’s truly of value in life!

    Sounds like an ideal women’s book group READ!

    I figure all those papers surrounding you represent all the thoughts fighting for attention in that brain of yours! Perhaps your mama’s too!

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  8. Tut
    Apr 29, 2010 @ 2:42 pm

    Thank you! Very well said. Your statements: “Eating whole, nutritious foods, moving frequently and fitting in yoga so that I can breathe in this hectic world. Because really, what are we without good health and more importantly, what are we without the love, joy and passion that can be sucked out of us on the quest to “perfection?”
    focus on the what’s truly of value in life!

    Sounds like an ideal women’s book group READ!

    I figure all those papers surrounding you represent all the thoughts fighting for attention in that brain of yours! Perhaps your mama’s too!

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  9. actorsdiet
    Apr 29, 2010 @ 4:31 pm

    agreed. thank you for shining a light on this book and this topic!

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  10. actorsdiet
    Apr 29, 2010 @ 4:31 pm

    agreed. thank you for shining a light on this book and this topic!

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  11. thehealthyjunky
    Apr 29, 2010 @ 5:38 pm

    This looks like a great book. I will have to remember this. I need to finish my Omnivore’s Dilemma first! I’m starting to take on more than I can chew haha

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  12. thehealthyjunky
    Apr 29, 2010 @ 5:38 pm

    This looks like a great book. I will have to remember this. I need to finish my Omnivore’s Dilemma first! I’m starting to take on more than I can chew haha

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  13. Katherine: What About Summer?
    Apr 29, 2010 @ 8:30 pm

    Marlyn Monroe was a size 12: everyone’s favorite saying…

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  14. Katherine: What About Summer?
    Apr 29, 2010 @ 8:30 pm

    Marlyn Monroe was a size 12: everyone’s favorite saying…

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  15. fittoindulge
    Apr 29, 2010 @ 9:30 pm

    Wow. I thoroughly enjoyed your book review. I just ordered the book on Amazon, and can’t wait to start it! (just as soon as I finish Garlic & Sapphires) :)

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  16. fittoindulge
    Apr 29, 2010 @ 9:30 pm

    Wow. I thoroughly enjoyed your book review. I just ordered the book on Amazon, and can’t wait to start it! (just as soon as I finish Garlic & Sapphires) :)

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  17. Kate
    May 01, 2010 @ 8:14 am

    this sounds like a super interesting read. thanks for sharing. i am definately adding it to my summer reading list.

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  18. Kate
    May 01, 2010 @ 8:14 am

    this sounds like a super interesting read. thanks for sharing. i am definately adding it to my summer reading list.

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  19. Karla
    May 02, 2010 @ 2:43 pm

    Thanks for sharing! This is most definitely going on my summer reading list. Body image is such a big thing now a days that sometimes can be so frustrating!

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  20. Karla
    May 02, 2010 @ 2:43 pm

    Thanks for sharing! This is most definitely going on my summer reading list. Body image is such a big thing now a days that sometimes can be so frustrating!

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  21. holly (the healthy everythingtarian)
    May 04, 2010 @ 8:45 am

    “God gave me this body as it is; I can’t change it and even if I did it would go right back.”

    i LOVE that quote.

    and i want to read this book. i think it is so refreshing for us to take a step outside our box and look at the world around us. no one thing is better than any other. we need to appreciate what we have, and shake what our mamas gave us!

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  22. holly (the healthy everythingtarian)
    May 04, 2010 @ 8:45 am

    “God gave me this body as it is; I can’t change it and even if I did it would go right back.”

    i LOVE that quote.

    and i want to read this book. i think it is so refreshing for us to take a step outside our box and look at the world around us. no one thing is better than any other. we need to appreciate what we have, and shake what our mamas gave us!

    Reply

  23. adifey
    Jun 23, 2010 @ 11:09 pm

    wow, I absolutely LOVED this!! I’m new to your blog, so far I love it and I definitely appreciated this post. I think girls today always forget the beauty is in the eye of the beholder and there is no set definition for what is beautiful.
    I’ll have to check this book out.

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  24. adifey
    Jun 23, 2010 @ 11:09 pm

    wow, I absolutely LOVED this!! I’m new to your blog, so far I love it and I definitely appreciated this post. I think girls today always forget the beauty is in the eye of the beholder and there is no set definition for what is beautiful.
    I’ll have to check this book out.

    Reply

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